The other day I was talking to a friend of mine and he was telling me about something kinda boring, but what I did catch him say was "but Dave helped me out". The "Dave" in question is a co-worker of mine whom I always call "David". So I was teasing him and saying "oh so you and Dave are best buds now, huh?" while in the back of my mind, I wondered how David felt about being called Dave. You see David is very conservative, always signs his emails as David, has a nameplate at work with "David" on it, etc. But does he mind being called Dave? That's what I wanted to know.
You know, names are so important. I have several friends - Cynthia, Catherine, Dorothy - who don't like theirs to be shortened. It's a HUGE pet peeve of theirs, and I can understand that. It's their name, after all, so people should have a little respect. I get called Tracy a lot, which pretty much doesn't bother me, but sometimes I do want to say "hello, not my name, people". And don't even get me started on the spelling LOL. It was nice at RWA to have the authors ask how to spell it, and not just assume there's an "e" in my name, which is the most commonly spelled version. I appreciated that. One thing I don't mind at all is having my name shortened. I get called "Stace" a lot, and that's fine with me. It makes me feel like people are comfortable around me and don't mind letting me know that. In fact, I kinda like it. Of course then that's when it gets confusing with all whole spelling issue, but I don't want to go back there LOL.
Another person I know who doesn't like her name shortened is fab Brava author HelenKay Dimon. I think she has a very pretty name - why would anyone want to shorten it? Plus, I think unless she says otherwise, people should call her HelenKay. (Yes, I hear my mother drilling respect principles into my little head). Seriously. And with my friend Cynthia, I can't picture her as a "Cindy". Yet people call her Cindy, even when she introduces herself as Cynthia, and I know it drives her crazy. If people can't even get a name right, what about other, more important stuff? Names are who we are, how we represent ourselves. I think they should be respected.
Now I know there are people out there who just have a hard time with names. That's okay. I don't mind if you have to ask me "what's your name again?" I get that a lot anyway - don't make much of an impression on people, I guess. LOL. But there's something to be said for being anonymous - no one knows that it was you. *g*
How about you? Do you run into this with your name? How do you feel about it? How do you respond to people who just don't get it right? Does it make you crazy if someone spells your name wrong?