I've known my friend Mike for about 14 years now, and in all that time, he's been married with kids. We're not super-close friends; we don't hang out often, and we only occasionally talk on the phone. What I like about Mike is that he's the kinda guy you can joke around with and not have to worry about hurting his feelings or any big misunderstanding. Because I have a sarcastic sense of humor, I can razz him and he gives it right back. I can call him a pain in the ass and he'll agree with me. Life was good.
Then a couple years ago, he started to get weird. He'd call me at work a few times a day for no reason, or he'd want to meet for lunch in 10 minutes, which I can't just do anyway. Once I went to lunch with him and he hardly even talked to me and then had to leave. Like I said, weird. He would come see me at my then p/t job. He's never come out and said anything, or we've never been touchy-feely, but it felt, well, weird. Then things kinda went back to normal for awhile, and I breathed a sigh of relief, thinking it was some freaky blip that finally righted itself. Life was good again.
But the guy is freaking out on my again. He's calling me at work or stopping by my office a few times a day, and my co-workers have been teasing me that he "likes" me, which I didn't want to hear. Geez, he'd better not. And just last week he tells me I make him nervous. What? Me? Come on. For anyone who's met me, I'm not that intimidating, and there's no good reason I should make him nervous. This is not good. Now it's freaking me out. So much so that I'm talking about it on my blog.
So I agreed to meet him at Applebee's after work on Friday, and I'm not looking forward to it. I think I need to clear the air and find out what's going on, but I don't want to know. I want to go back to how things were. When they were normal. And uncomplicated. AND unweird.
I'm absolutely positive I've never given him mixed signals. Like I said, we're not touchy-feely. I don't hug him or touch him in any way. I don't flirt with him, and as far as I can tell I've never crossed any line I shouldn't. All I know is that this has been bothering me for days and I just want to forget about it.
I know, I sound like I'm about twelve. Do you think I'm overreacting here? I'm horrible at reading signals, that's for sure, but something's going on. I am dreading seeing him. My instincts are screaming "danger, danger". What if he does have feelings for me? OMG. Do I end our friendship? I don't want to, because when he's not acting this way we have a lot of fun and I like being around him. Why can't things be normal again?